Why women might not experience orgasms?
If you don’t have orgasms, you are not broken. It totally makes sense from where you come from and how your body responds to pleasure.
Some women can let go no matter what, but most of us need to feel safe.
Sex is generally something everyone does but mostly no one talks about. As women we grew up in a sex-negative society picking up so many unhealthy messages around our female bodies and sexual organs.
It started when we began to explore our bodies and genitals as children, and were made wrong for it. So at an early age we began to shut down our natural flow and expression of sexual energy.
We are deeply influenced by religions that preach sex and spirit are separate and pleasure is bad and sinful. This makes us generally feel bad around receiving pleasure, and guilty about one of the most beautiful, powerful and healing forces in this universe.
We are lacking education as teenagers. High gloss magazines show us what feminine bodies are supposed to look like. Many of us learn about sexuality from porn that gives us a totally messed up view of what female pleasure and orgasms are about.
We miss sacred initiation rituals into womanhood that remind us and anchor in us the power of the divine feminine within.
Many women experienced very unpleasant first sexual encounters that leave them feeling not loved, honoured and with physical or emotional pain. Men often have no idea what women need to experience multi-orgasmic states of pleasure. How can they know, if we don’t know as women?
All of those experiences stay as imprints deep within the texture of our female bodies, hearts and souls.
The Good news? We have the power to transform them from within.