Why the feminine needs sexual healing?
Women are still influenced by centuries of patriarchal repression, conditioning, shame and guilt around being women- their bodies and their sexuality. Through Feminism we managed to liberate ourselves from the outside by living our sexuality freely, but most women don’t feel truly released from within.
We are lacking education. Porn shows us what a woman’s vagina should look like and how she “works”.
We trust doctors more than ourselves. Some of my clients are gynaecologists and midwifes, and after their first session they often say that they discovered so many areas of their Yoni they had never been aware of.
We show our Yoni’s to our intimate partners, some of them we just met a couple of hours before. But have you ever had a deeper look at your Yoni yourself?
Take a mirror and look at her. This is homework I highly recommend.
Many women ask me if their Yoni is normal – yes she is!
She is absolutely beautiful, magical and divine. Each Yoni is so different- like a flower. It is empowering to claim your feminine power back and see your Yoni as a natural part of your body. The most sacred one!
We also go for a foot massage, right? Why not dedicate time and energy for our most delicate space.
What will I get out of a Yoni massage session?
As in other parts of our bodies, we tend to carry a lot of tension, emotions and memories in our Yonis. She is so receptive and absorbs everything like a sponge.
If there is no blood and energy flow, we usually experience numbness. This is a very common reason why women come for a Yoni massage.
When I talk about stored memories I not only mean severe sexual traumas but also the smaller and more unconscious moments of a woman’s life, where we haven’t taken care of our Yonis or where our boundaries have been crossed. An unpleasant first intercourse, every encounter without her being really ready for it, every pleased YES that would have been a honest NO.
Painful childbirth, surgeries or the regular pap smear what many of us don’t like for a good reason.
Everything we don’t want to feel we push “down” into our Yonis. It makes me sad when I hear a woman talking about her Yoni as “down there,” as if she would not be a part of her body.
Many women have been sexually abused or carry trauma from the generation of their mother lineages before. We can talk a million times about it and bless psychotherapy, as it has its own place, but the memory will still be stored in our cells.
Through Yoni massage you will learn about your feminine sexuality and bring new awareness to areas where sexual pleasure is available.
By healing trauma, shame, guilt and negative believes that you may have regarding your Yoni and your sexual energy you open the gate for deep fulfilling orgasm’s.
As you take responsibility for your own sexual wellbeing, you will enhance self-esteem, creativity and deepen your sense of intimacy with yourself and others.
How to find the right therapist?
There are a variety of modalities, such as tantric Yoni massage, Yoni mapping or de-armouring. And every therapist works differently.
The main qualities I find very important from my own experience are presence, integrity and an open heart and mind. Trust your intuition and ask friends or other women for recommendations.
A professional therapist will talk with you before the session about your needs, desires and boundaries. And I have to make an important note here: Yoni massage does not involve intercourse!